at what base (on a romantic level) were you on with your 17 year old classmate? i am actually kinda dating my coursemate from poly too n i feel like its too young for me to even kiss him. ironic bc being gay is against asian ideals yet i am 2 scared to think of kissing a guy even. thoughts on this?
Actually the notion that homosexuality is 'un-Asian' is false. A brief look at ancient China would show you that homosexuality was recognised and accepted as part of society. Even the Bugis people recognised 5 different genders instead of the conventional two.
It is only with the introduction of Christianity, or rather Victorian English values did Asia start to turn her back against homosexuality.
Anyway, looking back at my relationship, I would say it was merely a mix of adolescent hormones, curiosity and infatuation. It wasn't really deep, per se. But it's expected when you're 17.
I say go at your own pace. You must be comfortable (but not too comfortable) in any relationship. Have an open communication channel to discuss matters like adults and see if you two can work it out. Do not, and never argue on an emotional level.
You're still young. You have space to experiment still and see what works for you, and form an idea of what a good relationship is for you.
It is only with the introduction of Christianity, or rather Victorian English values did Asia start to turn her back against homosexuality.
Anyway, looking back at my relationship, I would say it was merely a mix of adolescent hormones, curiosity and infatuation. It wasn't really deep, per se. But it's expected when you're 17.
I say go at your own pace. You must be comfortable (but not too comfortable) in any relationship. Have an open communication channel to discuss matters like adults and see if you two can work it out. Do not, and never argue on an emotional level.
You're still young. You have space to experiment still and see what works for you, and form an idea of what a good relationship is for you.
