Do you feel pressure to start a family?
No. Even if I were straight I think it's pretty clear to my family that I do not have any interest to marry and start a family.
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What is the most romantic gesture anyone could ever do for you?
Understanding my psyche and tolerating my nonsense. I'm a very difficult person to get closely intimate with. Aloof, fleeting, guarded on the most private of matters. I try my best to be open but there are certain walls I'm just not ready to break down for anyone.
It is much easier to throw your hands up and give up on me than it is to try to understand the way I think. I don't blame them. Kinda painted myself into a corner on that one.
It is much easier to throw your hands up and give up on me than it is to try to understand the way I think. I don't blame them. Kinda painted myself into a corner on that one.
Would you still be forging friendly relationships with 18-year-olds in real life when you're well beyond your 30's?
Friendly relationships, why not. Personally my whole life has been dotted with much older men who have been there as mentors or father figures. They are at least 30 years older than I am and I consistently have enlightening relationships with them.
One of my mentors drilled it into me to always respect the younger generation. One, they could eventually be my boss. Secondly, I personally feel it is important to be connected to the world around you. The younger generation will eventually run the world, and how they think and grow are good indicators of where society would head to in the next ten years at least.
I have a natural inclination to guide younger men and I don't see it going away anytime soon. I grew up pretty much on my own two feet, and sought guidance from other people. I just feel like I need to pay it forward. Whether I'm doing an okay job at it, time will tell.
Obviously I will be judged, but as long as my conscience is clear it does not bother me.
One of my mentors drilled it into me to always respect the younger generation. One, they could eventually be my boss. Secondly, I personally feel it is important to be connected to the world around you. The younger generation will eventually run the world, and how they think and grow are good indicators of where society would head to in the next ten years at least.
I have a natural inclination to guide younger men and I don't see it going away anytime soon. I grew up pretty much on my own two feet, and sought guidance from other people. I just feel like I need to pay it forward. Whether I'm doing an okay job at it, time will tell.
Obviously I will be judged, but as long as my conscience is clear it does not bother me.
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What do you think of the message behind this picture: http://9gag.com/gag/aKgKBm1
That's what I think about the current gay scene, really. I entirely dislike it when I listen to people talking about 'How to be Gay'. How to find sex, how to hook up. How to speak and dress. I entirely hate it. You're only restricting yourself and all this talk about being accepted but to pander to gay culture so you feel welcomed to it.
No you don't need to cruise, hang around back alleys, go topless in clubs. You don't have to have a rock solid body or a pretty face. All this only affects a tiny sliver of the gay community (clubbing community). It's nonsense.
I do notice this is more apparent with the older generation of gay guys when we weren't as open then. I am noticing however that homosexuality is being normalized within the younger crowd, even in secondary school. I think this is progress.
We should all do away with the intoxicating gay culture already. You have your own worth, your voice. Roll with that, not what someone told you the gay society 'wants'.
No you don't need to cruise, hang around back alleys, go topless in clubs. You don't have to have a rock solid body or a pretty face. All this only affects a tiny sliver of the gay community (clubbing community). It's nonsense.
I do notice this is more apparent with the older generation of gay guys when we weren't as open then. I am noticing however that homosexuality is being normalized within the younger crowd, even in secondary school. I think this is progress.
We should all do away with the intoxicating gay culture already. You have your own worth, your voice. Roll with that, not what someone told you the gay society 'wants'.
Do you associate certain songs with certain people? Example?
Music is one of the biggest driving forces keeping me sane. I'm not very good in expressing myself linguistically, and my words are simple. When I can't form sentences to describe an emotion, I substitute it with word play. Music helps me cross that bridge to get something out of my head.
Certain songs I tie in with fond memories or iconic moments in my life.
Champagne Supernova represents the time I lost my friend to a freak accident.
Almost Lover represents this sorrowful melancholy that happens to be a common trait in all my love matters; always so close to something beautiful happening but I release it before it does.
Amnesia represents another current person I really like but situations don't allow us to get closer.
When I broke up the last time I flew into the pent up rage listening to Eminem's Love The Way You Lie. All that energy released into the song I came out tearing and shaking with anger. In fact a lot of Eminem's songs induce me into a rage, and there's a certain kind of empowerment it gives you.
For many people I've ever loved there's a song I pair together to represent our relationship.
I also enjoy songs that sing about personal freedom. Lana's Ride resonates close to my heart. Chandelier's liberating chorus gives me all these emotions, allowing me to feel freedom at least for a while. I guess that's the biggest want in my life now; freedom. I'm tired of feeling like I'm being restricted. Over the past few years this need to let everything go and start over has gotten stronger. To simply vanish and start over, be nobody, living in the open world on a perpetual road trip.
Songs about loss also attract me. Loss of a loved one. Death. Wake Me Up When December Ends.
I think anyone with any interest to study my musical likes can easily get an intimate look at my current psyche.
Certain songs I tie in with fond memories or iconic moments in my life.
Champagne Supernova represents the time I lost my friend to a freak accident.
Almost Lover represents this sorrowful melancholy that happens to be a common trait in all my love matters; always so close to something beautiful happening but I release it before it does.
Amnesia represents another current person I really like but situations don't allow us to get closer.
When I broke up the last time I flew into the pent up rage listening to Eminem's Love The Way You Lie. All that energy released into the song I came out tearing and shaking with anger. In fact a lot of Eminem's songs induce me into a rage, and there's a certain kind of empowerment it gives you.
For many people I've ever loved there's a song I pair together to represent our relationship.
I also enjoy songs that sing about personal freedom. Lana's Ride resonates close to my heart. Chandelier's liberating chorus gives me all these emotions, allowing me to feel freedom at least for a while. I guess that's the biggest want in my life now; freedom. I'm tired of feeling like I'm being restricted. Over the past few years this need to let everything go and start over has gotten stronger. To simply vanish and start over, be nobody, living in the open world on a perpetual road trip.
Songs about loss also attract me. Loss of a loved one. Death. Wake Me Up When December Ends.
I think anyone with any interest to study my musical likes can easily get an intimate look at my current psyche.
Well perhaps you enjoyed your time because you were a foreign citizen living in an expatriate environment. Come to think of it, an independent East Malaysia would form a corrupt mess of a country, what with the ruling government having an overwhelming majority.
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what percent of questions do you delete because they are inappropriate.
Out of ten, maybe one or two.
Wait.. Why is it wrong for you to be drinking 100 plus in a park alone?
It isn't. Just regular police checks on potentially rowdy teens in case stuff starts happening.
Have you ever been pissed drunk, blacked out with zero collection of last night, to the extent of unconsciousness?
Yes. They seem to be happening more and more often this year. I'm guessing my body cannot keep up with the weekly dosage anymore after five full years.
The scariest part is my friends have mentioned I look absolutely in control, standing on my feet still, and my face is relatively normal. But I know for sure I am already on full automatic mode.
I don't enjoy it though. I have full conversations with friends with meaningful exchanges but the next day I recall none of it. i just feel it's disrespectful towards my friends. It's like them pouring out their soul to the wall, except this wall answers back but doesn't remember anything about it tomorrow. I meet dozens of people in one night and the next day I realize I absolutely forget meeting some of them or what we spoke about.
I'm trying to get it under control.
The scariest part is my friends have mentioned I look absolutely in control, standing on my feet still, and my face is relatively normal. But I know for sure I am already on full automatic mode.
I don't enjoy it though. I have full conversations with friends with meaningful exchanges but the next day I recall none of it. i just feel it's disrespectful towards my friends. It's like them pouring out their soul to the wall, except this wall answers back but doesn't remember anything about it tomorrow. I meet dozens of people in one night and the next day I realize I absolutely forget meeting some of them or what we spoke about.
I'm trying to get it under control.
What would you suggest a tourist do in Singapore if they only had a day to experience our country?
Stay in Changi Airport as you await your flight back from where ever you came from. Hah!
Honestly, I've no idea. Probably hit Orchard Road for some lacklustre shopping, maybe? Singapore really is more of a place you go to with a purpose rather than leisure. Otherwise I would say hit the restaurants, bars and hawker centres.
Honestly, I've no idea. Probably hit Orchard Road for some lacklustre shopping, maybe? Singapore really is more of a place you go to with a purpose rather than leisure. Otherwise I would say hit the restaurants, bars and hawker centres.
If you're 26 and im 17, only 9 years difference. What kind of damage could fall on me? I've always admired/loved older guys, they just seemed better in any sense compared to guys my age. Except for Jaden cause he chao lao.
I do agree they get better as they age (in general). It's fine if you wanna mix around with older guys. I just hope you also don't rush to 'grow up'.
And haha Jaden. I love Jaden.
And haha Jaden. I love Jaden.
Do you have perfect vision?
300 on each side, give and take.
Are you afraid of dying alone ?
No. I would actually rather. I've always imagined my death to be ambiguous. No news, nothing, everyone just doesn't know. Kinda like walking away in the desert and vanishing into the mirage.
I don't like the idea of loved ones and family crowding over me on my deathbed. It's overbearing. It is much easier to cope thinking there's a slight chance I'm still around somewhere in the world, than to know I have left, and there is no way for them to reach 'the other side'.
I don't like the idea of loved ones and family crowding over me on my deathbed. It's overbearing. It is much easier to cope thinking there's a slight chance I'm still around somewhere in the world, than to know I have left, and there is no way for them to reach 'the other side'.
Don't move to Malaysia! It sucks here and it's full of bigots
I had a really good time in Kuching, and I know it's a world of a difference than what the extremist bigots over on the peninsula offer.
Sarawak and Sabah should leave the Federation of Malaysia.
Sarawak and Sabah should leave the Federation of Malaysia.
2 people are drowning in some freak ocean accident: a loved one, or a prominent, well-liked figure in Singapore. You only have time to save ONLY ONE. Who do you save? Substantiate your answer. This will be reported in the local news.
The one I love. Cause if it wasn't me, then who?
Hope you get out of this black and white phase. Don't be too hard by yourself. ;)
How am I hard on myself?
Have you ever been in trouble with the law?
The most I've come close is getting my particulars written down cause I was a teen sitting by the road curb drinking 100 plus in the middle of the night at Sembawang Park.
I have a really boring, law-abiding life.
I have a really boring, law-abiding life.
Can we visit your house during Raya?
I do not open my house to anyone for Raya.
Ever thought of moving to Malaysia? Houses are cheaper?
I did have a thought a couple years ago to head back to Kuching to start a new career. But that didn't happen after I was offered a few jobs.
I actually have a few houses in JB and KL already too.
I actually have a few houses in JB and KL already too.
"I'm not interested." ... Some of my friends advise me otherwise. They say it's important to network (who you know not what you know). But I hate all that plasticity. Some people say I've made a name for myself by writing people off too abruptly. But as with everything, I'm trying to keep it real.
There's a huge difference between being networking and getting romantically involved with someone. Some may think networking means having to sleep with every other person, it is not. You can always meet new people and place boundaries on how intimate the friendship should be. If they cannot see past that, then I don't think it's even worth your time and dignity to bother with someone that doesn't respect you.
I network a lot too, but I always always always draw a boundary. It's not worth the drama to pull someone's heart strings when you're not even sincere about it.
I network a lot too, but I always always always draw a boundary. It's not worth the drama to pull someone's heart strings when you're not even sincere about it.
I think just like the "God" page on Facebook, you might want to direct those suicidal ones towards the suicide prevention hotline. (1800 221 4444) That would really be a huge good deed to the world and you are influential enough to do it. Meow
Yes you're right. I urge anyone with suicidal thoughts to call our local hotline.
I am NOT a qualified counsellor. There is no shame in getting professional help.
I am NOT a qualified counsellor. There is no shame in getting professional help.
What do you think of Gay for Pay?
As long as it's safe and consensual, I really don't have an opinion on it.
i dont know man i seriously dont know what's wrong with me. Everything isn't going my way, the situation im facing right now is out of my control, everything isn't going the way i wanted it to be. work,friends, family. fuck everything seriously. i just wanna take a break, take my attention away.
I don't know you, I don't know your situation. I did go through something like that once... a few times really.
You know what helped me? Realizing all this didn't matter at all. Some things are not under your control, and when you know it, just let it go.
It may seem difficult, but trust the phrase 'This too shall pass'. You may feel the absence of something means the end of the world but more often than not you'll find yourself perfectly fine a year later.
Only a few things really matter in life.
Sit on your feelings and reflect why you feel a certain way on certain issues. What is the source? Fear? Envy? Greed? Ego? Maybe then you'll understand where you're coming from.
When I lost a few things in life I realized my anger was coming out of pride and ego. I reconciled with my feelings. It was then easier to let it go.
You know what helped me? Realizing all this didn't matter at all. Some things are not under your control, and when you know it, just let it go.
It may seem difficult, but trust the phrase 'This too shall pass'. You may feel the absence of something means the end of the world but more often than not you'll find yourself perfectly fine a year later.
Only a few things really matter in life.
Sit on your feelings and reflect why you feel a certain way on certain issues. What is the source? Fear? Envy? Greed? Ego? Maybe then you'll understand where you're coming from.
When I lost a few things in life I realized my anger was coming out of pride and ego. I reconciled with my feelings. It was then easier to let it go.
can you please please please talk to me? there's no one else i can talk to and i don't know how much longer can i bottle up this amount of stress in me. i feel like i've no more control of my own life and it puts me in this situation whereby i just wanna end everything. I dont know who to look for..
I'm here. What is it?
When did you last meet your dad?
This morning. Meeting him later too.
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